How To Talk About Sex With Your Spouse (Without Fighting)

If you’re wondering how to talk about sex with your spouse, you’re not alone. As a sex therapist, I often see couples struggle with this conversation, even when that is the primary reason they are seeking treatment. Talking about sex can feel awkward, scary, or even unsafe—but with the right tools, it can bring you closer and strengthen your marriage. Obviously, it is challenging to open up to a therapist about such a sensitive topic, even if the person is a professional. Still, most of these couples struggle to discuss sex with their spouse. When they do, it often does not feel safe and sometimes causes harm in their relationship.